Before we figure out if this cute, but tastefully shy guy will ask you out on a first date, we must first see whether he is interested in you. All signs point to yes? Great!
There is a lot of subtle persuasion that goes into convincing a guy to make the first move. Why? Because a majority of men are afraid to get rejected. Blame it on evolution. We are not too far off from our furry ancestors who lived in small tribes. There weren’t too many women savages to choose from. When a guy made his move, everyone knew about it. And if he got shot down, he lost his chance (often permanently) to further his genes.
Seems ridiculous now that there are several billion people on earth… Guys still deal with this fear. It’s not your fault! The reality is that if you have been sending signals and he does not take steps to ask you out, most likely it’s because he’s scared of rejection.
“Are you asking me to go with you?”
You cannot believe how magical this line works! Here’s how it works: you two talk about anything and he mentions anything he’s about to do. You should immediately say “Are you asking me to go with you?” Whatever he mentions something he’s about to do, make it an opportunity for him to say yes.
If this one doesn’t work, you have another easy option. Mention something you are going to do soon and tell him he’d love doing it also. He might try to invite himself along, but if he’s one of the more clueless fellas out there, tell him he needs to come along. This is as low pressure as it gets. You were already on your way so you should go there together. He did not think about logistics or which cologne to wear or who pays what. It’s just a seemingly harmless chance to get to know each other better.
Take away the fear of rejection
How can you get past his caveman fear of rejection quickly? Flirt! flirt flirt Flirt! He needs to know that you are nice and this lowers his chances of being embarrassed. Compliments are great for this. Saying things like “You’re so brilliant” should always be followed with the reason. “You are so adorable how you saved those puppies from a burning building…” Make him feel understood and he’ll have no choice but ask you out on a date.
Give him a chance to show you his talents by making him show you. If he mentions playing an instrument or mentioning something he’s proud of, tell him you’d really like to see him do just that. When you can make a guy feel useful because of his extensive knowledge of everything, it will spark those same feelings for you.
Take an interest in his interests.
Try to work your way into his world by asking him questions about whatever he finds interesting. You can get a guy to ask you out simply by giving him a perfect way to talk to you by using something he’s comfortable with as your cornerstone.
The longer you wait around trying to get a guy to ask you out, the worse your chances become. People go all throughout their lives regretting missed connections. He could worship the ground you walk on, but feel powerless to ask you out for a number of reasons. You will have to make most of the first moves before he actually makes his. But as long as you stay flirty and fun, he will start to notice and he will get up the courage.
My question is this: Wouldn’t it be better to just be the girl that everyone wants to ask out? Maybe you need a secret weapon… Maybe you need to know how to be irresistible to men. You might never need to wonder how to get a guy to ask you out again!
